The Art of Avoiding Relationship Talk

How to Dodge the Discussion like Jarvis Cocker

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your partner wants to discuss your relationship and you’d rather talk about anything else? You’re not alone. In fact, you’re in good company with British musician Jarvis Cocker who famously said, “You know when you get into that thing where people want to discuss the relationship? I’d rather discuss what was on telly, avoid the issue, discuss anything other than the relationship.”

Let me share with you a personal story that might inspire you to perfect the art of avoidance. A few years ago, I went on a date with a guy I met online. Things were going well until he asked me, “Where do you see this going?” I froze. I wasn’t sure what to say. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, but I also didn’t want to commit to anything just yet.

So, I did what any reasonable person would do. I changed the subject. I pointed to a couple sitting across from us and said, “They look like they’re having a great time. Do you think we should try that restaurant next?” He took the bait and we spent the rest of the evening talking about food and travel. I dodged the discussion, and the relationship fizzled out naturally a few weeks later.

Tips for Avoiding Relationship Talk

• Change the subject: This is the most classic trick in the book. Use any excuse to talk about something else – the weather, your job, your hobbies.
• Laugh it off: If your partner is bringing up a serious topic, use humor to deflect the conversation. Say something like, “You must be joking!” or “Are you sure you’re talking to the right person?”
• Be honest: If all else fails, be honest with your partner. Say something like, “I’m not ready to have this conversation yet. Can we talk about it another time?”

Examples of Avoidance in Pop Culture

“Let’s just talk about something else. Like your hopes and dreams for the future.” – Jess Day, New Girl

“I have a confession. I’m allergic to commitment. And discussing the future makes me break out in hives.” – Blair Waldorf, Gossip Girl

It’s worth noting that avoidance isn’t always the best approach. There are times when it’s important to have a serious conversation with your partner for the sake of your relationship. I learned this the hard way after avoiding a discussion about our future with my now ex-boyfriend. It was only years later that I realized my avoidance was preventing us from moving forward.

The Three Key Takeaways

1. Avoidance can be a useful tool in certain situations, but it’s not a long-term strategy for a healthy relationship.
2. Communication is key to a successful relationship. Be honest and open with your partner about your feelings and concerns.
3. If you find yourself struggling with relationship talk, consider seeking the help of a professional therapist or counselor who can guide you through difficult conversations.

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